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Ladies love men that beat them: I try to keep these topics pretty mellow and light-hearted, but every once in a while it’s important to discuss the more intense issues that some of us face in relationships. Lately, there’s been a ton of media attention glamorizing domestic abuse. Those who aren’t in such situations never understand why some women stay in them, hence the classic question: Why on earth do women go back to men who hurt them? It’s a complicated answer, and females caught up in bad romance often don’t know how to get out until it’s too late. It’s not like this is a new phenomenon. Women have been sticking with men who abuse them for centuries.
Even today, with all the available support that we couldn’t get access to in the past. That just proves how mental abusive relationships are, and usually, it’s our own traumatic histories that cause us to keep seeking the wrong things as adults. Let’s delve a bit deeper…
1) SHE HAS A HISTORY OF ABUSE
Humans are such tortured creatures. Everyone I know–no matter their race, fortune, or location–has some issues, and for the most part, we tend to keep the worst ones hidden deep down inside. Abuse is like a contagious domino effect. Once it’s inflicted upon you, there’s a huge chance that you’ll either become dependant on such abuse, or start abusing others. What happens to us during childhood is carried throughout the rest of life. I know a fantastic woman and mother who was always in the middle of her neglectful parents’ violent fights as a child, and now, as a middle-aged adult, she’s still in an abusive relationship with her man of 10-plus years. Since she seems like such a strong woman inside and out, I asked her how she can stand to stay with him. She said that she feels emptiness without the sounds of shouting and anger around her. You could ignorantly dub such women as “weak,” but we’re all allowed our weaknesses. For some, it’s alcohol and drugs, and for others, sex or money. Then, sadly, there are those who are forced to associate pain with fulfillment.
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